Share the Load

I am thankful to Ariel for giving me this opportunity to add my powerful voice to the Ariel #ShareTheLoad activity at BlogAdda!
“I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”
A gender double standard has always been a part of our society till today. I have been witnessing such indiscrimination’s since childhood. Household chores are the exclusive domain of women and men are not expected to do domestic and kitchen work. Why this discrimination. It is true children learn from their parents and follow what is happening in the house. Its shocking but true that 2 out of every 3 children think that washing clothes is a mothers job.78% of girls in India agree that they should learn laundry as they will have to do it when they grow up. When girls are working full time then why 81% of married men of India agree that their daughters must learn household chores. While we talk of equality of both genders the mindset of people are the same. I have been seeing my grand mother doing all the household work and my mother was taught the same that all the household work is to be done by the women of the house including the laundry of the males of the house. Now in today’s scenario when girls are working and are financially independent but still she is expected to do the laundry of the household. If any male is seen doing the laundry he is called a joru ka gulam or being criticized by elders and friends. When I met a boy for matrimonial alliance I was told clearly that apart from doing my job I was supposed to do the entire house cleaning and washing the clothes. I want a husband who respects women’s independence and agrees to share the workload including helping me with the laundry. 

Women are treated like prisoners no magazines to read, no outings or parties. Girls were not even allowed to talk loudly whereas the boys are allowed to shout, play and run carefree. And these rules were handed over from one women generation to another. I always heard in my childhood from my grandmother that being woman was a curse. Today women are lucky and have wide opportunities. We are career women, homemaker or both. Both roles are demanding, competition oriented multiple roles which are both an emotional and physical stress for women. Unfortunately women lack support of family. Women have developed more through the passage of time they are good in offices and good homemakers and bringing up children as well. But these demanding multiple roles do not leave enough time for themselves. Let’s break this prejudice and stop passing this wrong ideology to our next generation.

 “I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”

Laundry is not a womans job alone

Today woman is economically independent. She is a good homemaker as well as a good in her office work. But managing all the roles leaves her very stressed and may be this is the reason that there are more cases of divorce, domestic violence in spite of the fact that there are less extended family these days. It is important to have a right balance between young couples so when both wife and husband are working then they should share the work load equally as well. I love socializing with my friends. After spending a hectic week schedule I plan group activities like shopping, movies, outing with family and friends. Whenever I ask my best friend to join me on a Sunday for an outing she always refuses only because she does all the laundry on a Sunday. One day out of curiosity I visited her to see why she says she is doing the laundry every Sunday. I was shocked to see pile of clothes stacked in the laundry bag. I asked her why so many clothes are lying in a corner. She told me as she is a working lady and she does not get enough time to clean clothes on work days so all the family members stack up the dirty clothes and linen in the corner so that my friend who gets only one break in a week can clean the clothes. I asked her where are the other members of her family and why don’t they help her in doing this job after all it’s not her work to wash all alone the clothes of the entire family. She took a deep sigh and told me that her husband has taken the children for an outing and moreover cleaning clothes is supposed to be a woman’s job. Her mother, grand mother has been doing the same and she has to follow the same routine. She questioned me if I had ever seen any advertisement on TV where the husband or a male of the house is shown doing the laundry. It is always a female model that is shown cleaning the clothes for it’s only a woman’s domain. House work including laundry is only the responsibility of the women of the house. If the clothes are not nicely washed or cleaned it’s her responsibility only. Whether she wishes to clean or not it’s her ultimate duty. Even my friends little children don’t find it odd that their mother is cleaning their dirty clothes while they are enjoying their weekend with their friends. Its strange that we are progressing but our mindsets are still the same.
Its time to fight back the imbalance within the household by asking #IsLaundryOnlyAWomansJob
and asking men to #ShareTheLoad. We need a long term solution to this problem by nipping the prejudice at the bud. Children learn what they see and what they are taught by their parents. So if they see that household chores are the exclusive domain of women, they will carry this prejudice into their adult lives and expect the women to do all the chores and especially laundry..

“I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”

Live Live Kingsize in Delhi

If you want to feel the pulse a nation then stay in its capital. This holds very true for Delhi which is also the capital of India. It is the seat of governance and all the decisions to rule the country are made here.

In terms of Design it has the well designed central Delhi that is always so beautiful and elegant. It is a delight to drive on the broad roads of Delhi specially in and around Connought Place and almost all of central Delhi that used to be the heart of Delhi. Even though a lot of colonies have mushroomed in the city and the newer roads are continuously being built along with flyovers to make commute as smooth as possible. The experience of going on a Drive the capital is like no other. With a lot of trees around the greenery provides a lot of relief to the tired eyes. Delhi despite its ever increasing population is Designed to keep stretches of trees, green patches and forests within the city. These act as the lungs of the city. Driving in the capital city gives you the feeling of being in in control of your DRIVE as one commutes for is work sight seeing. There is plenty to do in the city. From food to fashion and places to visit there is something of interest and exciting for everyone. Roads and taking your own car to commute is not the only option in Delhi. One opt for the air conditioned buses or the well designed and planned Metro service to reach from point A to B. Delhi is a big city with a large number of colonies. It is seeing the transition from large houses bunglows and kothis being transformed into multistory apartments. Yet these change in structures and designs have not caused the people much.

Connect: Delhi is well connected by Air ,Rail and Roads. It has a bustling domestic and international airport. It has a number of railway stations and extensive bus services that ply within the city as well as connect it to rest of the country.

The peope of are as warm and caring who bond and connect with each other and the city with great zeal.

Weddings and parties are a sight to behold when people are seen devouring lavish spreads of foods wearing their expensive clothes ,jewelery and a lot of trendy accessories.

The people of this beautiful city have an instant connect with each other as they celebrate each others festivals winnings cricket or hockey matches is an instant catalyst to trigger city wide celebrations on the streets whenever India beats an opposition team the entire city celebrates the occasion and the street turn into a big party procession. Even though Delhi is a bi g city and fast growing both in terms of the number of people coming and living here as well as the ever increasing city boundaries thanks to the ever expanding NCR region so fresh metro tracks are being laid everyday to help the people commute and fresh roads are being constructed to help people reach their destination with ease.

 Indeed I love you Delhi

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Sugarfree Natura Besan Laddoo

 Sugarfree Natura Besan Laddoo
Besan 2 cups
Sugarfree Natura 14 measures
Ghee 1/2 cup
Dry Fruits mixed 1/2 cup
Cardamom Powder pinch

Method

In a pan,add ghee when hot add besan.Keep stirring to avoid lumps till it gets little brown.
Remove from the flame. Add sugarfree Natura, Cardamom powder and dryfruits.Make round balls.

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Pampers for the softest smiling baby skin

Babies are a bundle of joy. To keep them happy we need to keep them soft and hydrated. Weather changes and pollution often makes their skin irritated and dry. Doctors advise sunscreen lotions even on little babies. Use only approved sunscreen lotion for infants 6 months and younger. Apply sunscreen all over the baby's face and body 20 minutes before going out in the sun. Babies can’t say if they are feeling the heat much so one must be vigilant and if the skin looks red take them indoors immediately. Limit direct exposure to the sun. Protect them with an umbrella or sun shade. Always buy baby skin friendly products which are tested by dermatologists. Use just a small amount of lotion on baby's skin just to check if it is allergic to it. If the child's skin gets irritated, check the ingredients of the product and switch to a brand that contains other ingredients. Always use high SPF lotions and for best protection reapply sunscreen every 2 hours when outdoors.

There is nothing quite like the soft, delicate skin of a baby. Many babies are prone to skin irritation in the first few months after birth. If a baby has red skin around the diaper area, its a diaper rash. Most diaper rashes occur because of skin irritation due to diapers that are too tight, and wet diapers left on for too long or because of detergents in diapers and baby wipes. One can avoid this keeping the diaper area open to the air as long as possible. Change the diaper as soon as it’s wet, washing with a warm cloth and applying moisturizing cream. Always use gentle soaps and detergents and apply moderate amounts of moisturizers. Avoiding skin rashes will keep your baby smiling and happy: Use a gentle detergent to wash everything that touches your infant's skin, from bedding and blankets, to towels and even your own clothes. You'll cut down on the likelihood of baby developing irritated or itchy skin. Use only pampers diapers and wipes as they are tested and most reliable.

“Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin  and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”.No other pants are drier for happy mornings. Its a uninterrupted , driest comfort for baby's skin. Skin Protection.Pampers Premium Care Pants keeps the little one’s skin dry and healthy. Pampers Premium Care Pant is the best and ultimate choice for all the mothers. A full protection from pampers that ensures all the babies are happy and healthy.

“Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”

Pampers for the extra soft baby skin

Babies are sensitive to temperature change. If your baby's bundled up, it can become overheated. Itchy red bumps appear when tiny sweat glands get clogged. Dress your baby in breathable layers of clothes, and remove one if it's hot. Babies' lips are always wet thanks to drooling, lip-licking, and drippy noses, and that moisture can break down the protective top layer of skin.  Apply a thin layer of petroleum jelly or lip balm to create a barrier against the elements and to moisturize already-chapped lips. Dress your baby in mittens and a hat or hood, and don't stay out too long. Extend the cover on your stroller to block the wind. If your baby's skin looks red, give it a lukewarm bath. Using a thick moisturizer  or petroleum jelly on your baby's cheeks (or other problem areas) will add to the natural barrier and help treat any skin that's already chapped. Red, flaky skin can appear anywhere on your baby's body, especially on the face. It's particularly common during the winter because cold air doesn't carry as much moisture as warm air. Bathe your baby every day just don't use water that's too warm. Avoid soap or shampoo that contains fragrance or alcohol. Exposing your baby's skin to water twice a day will help keep it hydrated. When you bathe it, use a non soap cleanser only on the underarms, backside, groin, and feet, and use water to wash the rest of the body. Within two minutes of getting it out of the tub, spread on a moisturizing cream or an ointment like petroleum jelly to seal in the water. At another point during the day, use warm water from the sink to blot the skin, and then immediately apply moisturizer on the skin on the bottom which is vulnerable to moisture, heat, and irritants.

Baby's bottom may get red and tender for the first time when it begins solid food because the change in its stool can be irritating to the skin down there. Other possible causes: are wearing a wet or dirty diaper for too long, friction from tight-fitting diapers, and excessive heat and sweating. Change soiled diapers as soon as you can, and let your baby go naked once in a while so the skin gets some air. Make sure the diapers aren't too tight, and don't be afraid to go up a size. Use white diaper cream with zinc oxide or petroleum jelly to form a barrier that protects your baby's skin from friction and moisture. Our first and only choice is Pampers.“Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin  and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”

“Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy. ”

MadeofGreat can be a person around you

I was very keen to become an engineer but the elders in my family were against my becoming an engineer, I being a girl. I was very disheartened by this turn of events. My next door neighbor asked me why I was looking so sad. So I told her about my wanting to become an engineer and how my family was against it. It was their belief that it was a girls role to learn about cooking and tending to the home. On hearing this my neighboring aunt told me her story how her father had inspired her to become an engineer. Hers was a family of engineers. However her father was a maths teacher. As she was good in physics and maths she always aspired of becoming an engineer. Her father supported her and did everything possible to help her succeed.Every time they use to take a train journey and pass the station of Roorkee the train would slow down and her father would point towards the station and say “This is Roorkee, the place where you have to come and study engineering when you grow up”

This action of her father used to inspire her a lot. By the she grew up to be of college going age there was mounting pressure on her father and family to marry her off. Despite all this pressure and opposition from the elders he stood like a rock of support for his daughter. She gave the entrance exam for getting admission to an engineering college but before the results could be out her father passed away. As luck would have it she  got admitted to the engineering college in Roorkee .She went ahead and fulfilled her dream of becoming an engineer and her fathers dream of her graduating from Roorkee. For her. her father was #madeofgreat who helped her dream and fulfill her aspirations and for me this neighboring lady has become a beacon of hope and source of inspiration who is truly #madeofgreat who despite having lost her father and the most important pillar of support of her life went ahead to fulfill her dream and that of her father.

Inspired by this lady I too am determined to fulfill my dreams of becoming an engineer.

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